All of us wants to fall in love, to meet someone we can love and that would love us back. But finding the right person is not an easy feat. You’ll go through so many mistakes, failures, heartaches, and all the bad thing that could ever happen to you. We cannot avoid these things to happen, we can only manage the pain. It’s hard sometimes that we’re already in the verge of giving up. But as they say, in order for us to find our soul mates we should always be ready to take the risk and be ready for the effects of taking these risks. One of my favorite mantras in my life is that, “Life is full of risks. Life becomes much better when you learn to not fear them.” We should always be ready to fail, to be disappointed, to get rejected but never ever cease in loving. I think that is one important thing to put in our minds–never give up. Luck will not be always be on your side, you know. You have to believe that someday it will be your chance, your moment to be happy with someone. Believing is one important key to be successful. You have to believe that someday someone will walk into your life that will make you realize that all the heartache, pain, and sacrifices are all worth it. You have to believe that even if you’re going through hell.
Loving someone is one thing but making it last is another. It is hard to make a relationship work because you are two persons in a relationship and you have to work it together, acting as one not two individuals. This is the hard part because you are two individuals with two different personalities, goals, and outlooks in life. So it’s given that you’ll get hurt from time to time. Embrace everything regardless whether it caused you pain or happiness because all of these experiences… these lessons will hone you and mold you into much better person that will make you more mature and make your more suitable to love and to be loved. Don’t be scared to make mistakes because it’s part of everything, part of life and of falling in love. Finding the right one is not easy, as I said before. You can’t exactly pinpoint in a snap who is right for you. By committing mistakes, you gain experiences and lessons. You’ll know nothing about love if you don’t commit mistakes once in a while.
Another thing that I always keep in mind is, despite how cliché it may sound, to follow my heart. Paulo Coelho said it best, “You can’t tell the heart anything. It has a mind of its own. You just follow the heart.” But in my case, I also use my brain. There should be a balance between the two. You can never be too rational or too emotional when it comes to love especially when it comes to assessing your relationship to know if it’s worth fighting for. I think there should be a 70:30 ratio (heart:mind). But, you never have to use your mind if you find the right one for you because it’s not real love when you start doubting your feelings.
Love is tricky. There is no formula or concrete steps to follow in order to be successful. Falling in love is like walking in the dark with only a flash light. You can only see the five meters in front of you and the path slowly unfolds in front of you as you continue to walk. You’ll never know what’s in the next ten or so meters… what’s ahead of you. Everything is uncertain. Love is like that it is a never ending learning process. Everyday is a learning experience. You’ll never know what will happen to tomorrow. Love is always uncertain otherwise it will feel monotonous and boring if you know what will happen tomorrow. Love should be spontaneous. This is when love is the sweetest, more meaningful and genuine. In this uncertainty, faith is the only thing that fuels your heart to keep on loving, to keep on moving on. I could go on and on about this but I think what is most important is to believe, to have faith, and to continue to love no matter what.
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